Surviving PON Politics
Stogie & Treasure, owned by Marla Applebaum Montreal Quebec
Do you ever get fed up with
breed politics and want to keep to yourself? "I'll just keep quiet and avoid
trouble. I'm not going to hang around these people."
Breedpolitics are a fact of life. It seems as though we tend to come across the same personality types, and same cliques again and again. We often ask ourselves why we didn't see it coming and avoid the same issues.
However, the solution is not to isolate yourself from your fellow PON owners. If you are isolated, you may set yourself up to be the one talked about, or blamed for issues you know nothing about in the breed. You're the outsider.
You also miss out on updated developments and "news" among owners. Online information provides very little of what is actually going on. You'll know more by making friends among other PON owners.
However, when it comes to important breed issues or jealousies between two sides, never take a side. It will do you little good to defend one side. To survive PON politics, you must be able to contact fellow owners. Why cut yourself off from the support of one group, or even one person? Be diplomatic, understanding of all sides, and refrain from judgment.
Avoid gossiping about fellow PON owners. When others dish the dirt, carefully remove yourself. If you add your comments, your words become part of the story as that infector carries the story to the next person. It is far better to protect your reputation and your relationships, than indulge in gossip.
Another way to cut yourself off is by claiming you have perfect PONS. Fellow PON owners appreciate real PON owners/PONS with a few imperfections, bad hair days and an occasional crisis. If your PONS seem perfect, fellow PON owners will be waiting, if not hoping for dirt to happen.
We can boil it down to a strategy in which you do not cut yourself off, but enjoy favorable relationships with your fellow PON owners. You may not be able to get along with everyone. Just try not to offend or alienate. Don't be seen as political, or biased. You are impartial, and in the end you'll look good. The best way to win trust among all PON owners is not to gossip. Lastly, be careful not to appear to be anyone's flunky. The bottom line is you want to be trusted, respected and liked.
"The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail instead of his tongue." Anonymous